I need an epiphany toilet
It's not that I have writer's block, but I'm just not sure what to put here.
There's a decent amount of traffic that comes here, but I'm not sure if it's for the links or to because my post's are interesting.
I don't speak to my brother anymore. The reason I bring this up is because the closing for my mother's house will occur on Feb. 27th (in theory). But I won't be there because I'll be in Texas for the week on business. My sister also won't be there because she doesn't want to be alone with him without me (i think). This is a major decision in my opinion, because unlike me, she grew up with him.
The reason why is pretty simple, and i'm sure most of you can see it coming, but I don't think i've actually told anyone on here. My brother didn't do jack shit to help my mom. In total he only visited her 3 times before her death, and not even with my sister-in-law. I assume she couldn't be bothered to come.
While me and terri were switching days (every other) to take care of her, he just went about his life offering us no support. With his help we would have been able to do every 3 days instead of every other. Even if his job wouldn't allow it, he could have done weekends. Anything to help us out, and at least spend some time with mom before she died. Instead it was just left on us to do it everyday, everyweek, everymonth. These memories are horrible ones, I don't blame anyone for not wanting them, but I will serve judgement on people who abandon their family.
So he get's his third of the house, but in return loses a brother, and has to live the rest of his life knowing he can never fix what he did or change it. I don't think it was worth it. Oh and Terri, if you read this, I don't want your TV. Your gonna have to keep it.
So he get's his third of the house, but in return loses a brother, and has to live the rest of his life knowing he can never fix what he did or change it. I don't think it was worth it. Oh and Terri, if you read this, I don't want your TV. Your gonna have to keep it.
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i JUST READ YOUR ENTRY RE: YOUR BROTHER AND i FEEL VERY SAD . i KNEW HIM A LONG TIME AGO AND ..WELL WE ALL MAKE DECISIONS THAT OTHERS HAVE TO LIVE WITH ..LIKE IT OR NOT . hOWEVER, iAM SHOCKED THAT HE TURNED HIS BACK ON HIS MOTHER THAT HE SAID THAT HE LOVED DEARLY . hANG IN THERE KID . GOOD LUCK IN YOUR NEW HOME . nO REGRETS. tELL YOUR SISTER [ WHO ISN'T THE DEVIL BY THE WAY ] THAT i SAID HEY . oH , i HAVE A QUESTION ...i SAW YOUR BRO'S COMMENTS . wHY DOES HE EVEN BOTHER LOOKING UP YOUR WEB ? gUILT ??
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Posted by: BARBARA | May 18, 2006 11:49 AM
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I think you pretty much hit the nail on the head. It's sad but for the best.
I'd write more, but i have no couch. Still moving in :)
Posted by: d | May 18, 2006 11:49 AM
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Hmmm. I have not spoken to my sister in about 5 or 6 years, for matters of personal integrity, also. My sister and I both know the reasons why yet she is too stubborn to own up about it. If your brother is this type then prepare for the long haul. I can honestly say though, in my situation, I am happier not having my sister around. I believe I live a healthier life because of it. But it did take 2 to 3 years before I felt good about the whole incident. Meaning for 2 or 3 year after the incident, I still had mixed feelings about the issue. Both anger for what had originally happened, for her refusal to be responsible about the whole incident, and I would also harbor a sad spot where I would miss my perception of the relation we had before. I liken it to getting out of a destructive relationship; you don’t fully understand everything until you are completely detached from the issue. In my case it took 2 to 3 years. But now that I can view the whole thing, relationship and all, with an objective view. It was painful decision to make and more painful to stick to it. But it was definitely for the best.
Any way sorry to ramble hope things turn out for the best, what ever that may be in your situation.
Posted by: Dana | May 18, 2006 11:49 AM